It’s Not What I Want But It’s What I Need

Not What I Want


It’s not what I want BUT it’s what I need…hummm…the lyrics to the song made famous by Mick Jagger, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes might find you get what you need” are true in so many ways. There are not many of us who like it when we don’t get what we want and can’t understand why. The big picture is not always revealed to us so we get mad, frustrated and sometimes have a hissy fit. It may not feel so good at the moment but the end result will be in our favor.

Several years ago I went to the dentist and wanted him to whiten my teeth and to use any way possible to make it happen. I was so desperate and hated my smile. My teeth were severely discolored due to tetracycline antibiotic I was given as a young child.  My dentist told me the first thing I had to do was put braces on because my teeth were very crooked, THEN after the 2 ½ years of wearing braces, he could put on the veneers to mask the stained teeth. Well….I’m sure the look on my face was far worse than the monkey in the picture. I was so upset for days knowing I wasn’t going to get what I wanted at that moment and I couldn’t see the big picture at that time. All I could see was the big delay. But eventually, I got it and knew it was the right thing I needed at the time. Needless to say, I’m glad I went through the steps to get the smile I wanted.

We don’t always know the outcome of disappointment, trials and situations that come at us, but if we take the road that is the right choice our lives will always be better for it.

“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”  ~Dalai Lama.

I love this quote because it reminds me of a song by Garth Brooks, “Unanswered Prayers.” If you haven’t heard it, check it out- there is a lot of truth to it.

The bottom line is to keep your focus on your true needs and when you don’t get what you want this doesn’t mean it’s not coming to you. It may not be the right time for you to receive it or it just may not be in your best interest.



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