Posted on May 8, 2016
My mom and I started off on a rocky course together, she was young when she had me and was still growing up herself. She wanted to ride motorcycles and hang out with a crowd who my grandparents deemed “undesirables.” I on the other hand had no interest in being around her during my younger days and coupled with reasons from my grandparents’ influence and the choices that mom was making at the time. As time pressed on, our relationship started to fuse together, she settled down and I grew up.
At age 16, she and I went on our first cross-country trip together. We left Indiana and headed west destination: Las Vegas, Nevada and the Grand Canyon. My mom’s best friend and her son were coming along on the adventure. We were traveling in a 74’ mustang with little room for 4 passengers. The small space fused us together for that short time and we learned a lot about each other back then. We had an awesome journey that year and for me that’s where the travel bug reared its head and bit me. We managed to do a few more trips together before I got married. We enjoyed each other’s company during that short time span as well as the places we got to see.
A few years after I divorced, mom asked me if I would be interested in her coming to Arizona where I lived. She was about to retire and she was looking for a change. Our relationship was stronger that it had been in the early years and I thought, why not? My sister was living in Arizona now, so I thought it would be good if we were back together as a family again.
Things changed for the good after she made her move west. We got to know each other a lot better and the relationship was growing much stronger and we are having an incredibly great time. Age, growth and forgiveness on both of our parts have made the bond strong now.
Mother and daughter relationships can be complex and there is no two relationships the same. I’m very thankful for her and the wisdom and sunshine she has brought to me. She has been my rock, confidant, my psychiatrist and friend over the years since she moved to Arizona.
Our traveling has blossomed from the US to wonderful destinations as Europe, Central America and an upcoming journey to Asia. Age has slowed her body down, but her mind is sharp and youthful. She has a tender heart, mountains of patience and a smile that is always turned on.
It hasn’t always been easy for her being my mother that’s for sure. I can be moody, distant at times, hard to get along with and pushy- but my love for her is ever lasting and I let her know every day how much she does mean to me. I’m very thankful to God for giving her to me and for allowing second chances.
My mom suffers from arthritis in her knees, the crippling debilitating disease that is very painful and tries to suck the life out of the person it has attacked. She has opted not to have knee replacement surgery for reasons I still don’t understand. My mom still works because she wants to stay active and socialize with her group of friends. I give her kudos for her decision to keep moving ahead.
Today is a special day for all Mothers and without them where would we be? As for me, I want to say about my mom, whose name is Carole that I love her and how much she is appreciated. She is the best mom in the world to me.
To all of the moms in the world, this day is all about you.
Happy Mother’s Day!