Embracing Vulnerability To Become The Real Deal

embracing vulnerability

 

How many of us are looking for the Real Deal in our Life? What does the Real Deal mean to you and does it really exist?

This year I welcomed in the New Year with hope and zeal. I sang, made outrageous noise and genuinely received the New Year knowing that change was coming and most importantly I decided to bring in the New Year with some life changes. The words that floated through my mind was “The Real Deal.”

When a decision is made that it is time for a life change some things have to be cut out of our life and left to die on the roadside. Some changes like cutting habits that are not adding any value to life or a change in diet, perhaps to eat cleaner and healthier and pay attention to what our bodies are telling us. The biggest change that most people decide to do and work towards is the change that comes from within.   

Part of the real deal is embracing and opening up to our authentic self. Authenticity is a gold standard in relationships and it comes from the heart. How many of us are searching for the Real Deal in our lives? With so much phony baloney prancing around this world, authentic people are a breath of fresh air, don’t you think? When we are our authentic selves it helps us to be better entrepreneurs, teachers, business people or whatever our field is in life. We don’t have to hide our weaknesses, fears and emotions from anyone. We can stand firm and know there is no competition we have to step up to. It’s freeing when we can realize it’s ok to be real and better yet there is no explanation necessary. Vulnerability is mega scary but that’s what separates us from the phonies. I love the following quote:

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself and not a second-rate version of someone else.”—Judy Garland

Have you ever mimicked someone else? Most often it doesn’t work. Decide to be that wonderful you and don’t compare yourself or try to be someone you’re not. The real you is what the world is hungry for, it’s had enough disappointments from the imposters and the world is pretty good at picking up on the Real Deals and gravitating towards them.

When we decide to be the Real Deal or to come into our authentic self we have to understand that our vulnerability and transparency will be available to everyone. Integrity, character and honesty are key players when we drop the vale and expose our vulnerability and we make the decision to show our flaws to everyone we meet. There are so many facets to turning our lives into authentic selves. It’s about how bad do we want it and then checking fear at the door knowing there is a greater reward.

Life is so full of possibilities and sometimes we can’t see it because we are holding on to dry and lifeless dead bones which are our self-defeating habits that keep us pinned under the bus. We get afraid to let the world know who our not so perfect selves are.

We are created for good things, to be happy and working towards our greatness. Each of us have seeds of greatness planted within us, it’s how we are designed by God. Our greatness begins when we decide to step out of the boat and become the Real Deal.

Isn’t it liberating to know we can be our true authentic self, free of pretension and acting like someone else? To know deep down this is who we are and there is no script to follow?

 

5 comments

  1. Gabe says:

    I enjoyed this post. Molding and refining our identity is one of those issues we all struggle with. Some consciously, but most don’t. Thanks for raising some interesting questions and even more importantly, suggesting a few strategies to get us started.

    Hope you continue to write. I’ll be following along.

  2. Laura says:

    Vulnerability… so important. I am trying to embrace this on an even deeper level in my life right now. It’s amazing how it can transform our lives. And now I’m curious. What are the life changes?

  3. Maria says:

    I have always struggled with the advice to fake it until you make it. I think I would rather flake it until I make it, if needs be, because that is where true authenticity is found, in being willing to keep showing up and being yourself, even when mistakes are made and we’re not perfect.

    Great post.

  4. Maria says:

    I have always struggled with the advice to fake it until you make it. I think I would rather flake it until I make it, if needs be, because that is where true authenticity is found, in being willing to keep showing up and being yourself, even when mistakes are made and we’re not perfect.

    Great post.

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